Friday, October 17, 2014

Initiation into a Cult

Malidoma Patrice Somé, who authored “Of Water and the Spirit” says his village elders believed that it is utterly impossible to survive being caught between two conflicting belief systems.

I believe that clear statement to be a deep truth. I know that upon leaving the Jehovah’s Witnesses that I had to purge their old beliefs with which I was raised or else I would self-destruct. I was compelled to replace those toxic ideas with something more conducive to life and freedom from religious bondage, if I wanted any measure of sanity.

If only secular people knew how sick and twisted religions can be. People need to be free, not enslaved by dogma, abuse, and outright lies.

We have all heard horrific stories about children of the first peoples being ripped away from the security and love of their family and village, and unceremoniously deposited into residential schools. It happened in North America, and now Malidoma Patrice Somé relates his experience in Upper Volta, Africa at the hands of the Jesuit priests. Perhaps child kidnapping at the mercy of religious fanatics is a world-wide phenomenon. It's like this: a child has its secure foundation nicely set in place, then along comes someone who thinks they are superior, takes the child, then transplants him/her into an extremely harsh alternate setting. There, the so-called “advanced” or “civilized” white people attempt to destroy his/her early foundational bonds and replace them with something utterly loathsome.

Well, there is another way the human child gets born and ruthlessly conditioned on this planet, and that is “from birth” without a normal foundation or sense of belonging — ever.

And that is my story.

I never had a village and I never had loving parents. I was born, arms flailing, and deposited directly into a dysfunctional “white colonialist family” who figured they were modern, civilized, and advanced. Yes, I learned to read and write. And yes, I learned about a terrifying deity called Jehovah who was a cruel, jealous, exacting, violent, and punishing God.

Along with my religious parents, my six brothers and I lived on a farm in the Interlake area of Manitoba, Canada, where we were virtually isolated, because we lived a half-mile away from the nearest neighbors who wanted nothing to do with us — all because of our weird religion. Our father was a violent man, and an alcoholic. My mother did nothing to protect us from his rages because she, too, was terrorized by him. His religion — mixed with his homebrew — made him a madman. He attempted to kill my brothers and make it appear like a “farm accident.” Thankfully, he failed. However, he did successfully murder my maternal grandfather, as described in my autobiography, “Phoenix of Faith.” Also, it is quite probable that he killed his own father, except I was too young to remember more of the details. But looking back, it certainly was possible.

When he prophesied my death at the age of sixteen, I fled forever from the family home.

I endeavored to transplant myself without knowing what “normal” was. I ran away to Winnipeg and hoped I might fit into my friend, Linda’s family. But, her family didn’t want me. After all, why would anyone want to take on our family problems?

It took Somé eleven days to find his way back home from the Jesuit school. Upon arriving home, he discovered he could no longer communicate with his family or the village because he had “lost” the language — which was literally beaten out of him — by Jesuit priests, no less. After fifteen years in the white religionists' hell hole, a future in his village appeared bleak.

Now, I fully relate to the challenges of the aforementioned author, albeit my circumstances were different. Not that I would diminish someone else’s misfortunes because validation is always appropriate. The author may have very well felt that upon his return he didn’t fit into either world. Now he was a man caught between two worlds — a less than comfortable realization. Here he was, now with two conflicting foundational belief systems — and here he was standing with unplanted feet. Was survival possible?

Fortunately, the tribal elders in Somé’s village decided over a period of a few months that he was worth ‘salvaging’ and decided by small majority that an initiation back into his community was in order.

Nice community, wouldn’t you agree? They decided he was worth scavenging?

Unlike the religious elders of my white family's religion, who quite figuratively “killed” me by use of a disfellowship order.[1] I am now considered “dead” in my children’s eyes. Dead and gone.

Now I dare to pose the question: White man's colonialist religion is "civilized"?
So I moved three provinces away from the religious community’s prying eyes, where no one seems to care about my past.
With the family’s death wish hanging over my head — and a belief system in which it was impossible to exist independently of the cult — well now you, dear reader, might know why it was imperative that I purge the family belief system.

That’s my journey to safely — a long, circuitous, confusing, and complex route. And I’m only part way there. I have my ups and downs. Some days go really well — and other days — well, I slide into a dark hole. Yet at a soul level, I have not given up on my right to live. Instead, I crawl out of my despair and seek the root source of the split belief within myself, in order to bring myself into balance.

I, too, believe as do the elders of the Dagara community that it is utterly impossible to co-exist caught between two conflicting belief systems.

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[1] “Of Water and the Spirit” by Malidoma Patrice Somé is available on Amazon.

[2] Members of Jehovah's Witnesses who leave are treated as dead via the execution of a shunning order. Their reason? “Satan's influence…will be to cause the other…members of the family to…join…his course…To do this would be disastrous, and so the faithful family member must recognize and conform to the disfellowship order.”—Watchtower 1952 Nov. 15, p. 703.
 

Visit "Phoenix of Faith" to learn more about the author's memoir. Copyright © 2014.

2 comments:

  1. As the American poet David Whyte said, these old patterns, instilled with the authority of the Bible, the family and the community, are "burned into consciousness." Your story is similar to mine with the Mennonites. I read somewhere, "If you don't like the bible you grew up with, write your own," so that's what I have done with my book "Through To The New: A Dialogue with Higher Self" (I'm thinking of a new main title: "Repositioning God"). The next step is to find a healing (rather than hurting) community and then a family wherein one is treated with the respect. We are building the "family of lightworkers," Esther, in order to help build a society that works better for everyone.

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  2. Lovely to receive your comment. Neall. I appreciate the encouraging and caring words from one who has "been there." I agree that we need to work on growing a supportive community of lightworkers. Also, I have been reading your self-dialogue and it is a wonderful and uplifting read! Oh, and I like your new title, too. Thanks for dropping by.

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