Well, the life I endured as a child seemed to follow me into adulthood. I ended up marrying a man who cheated on me all the time. When I decided to leave the family religion as an adult, my kids turned against me, choosing to obey the "disfellowshipping order."
Now I ask myself the question, why do the wounds from the past seem to follow me into the present?
What did I do to deserve this kind of treatment? Wasn't I just an unloved, lonely, and unwanted child?
Some schools of thought teach that I must not resist, but instead learn to accept and love myself, in order to heal that old energy of the past. To put into perspective, I reasoned that resistance was futile, so why not just be more accepting of my present circumstances. Why not "surrender"? After all, resisting dis-ease was doing nothing for me, except wearing me out.
This past summer, I have had to take time off work because of the extreme exhaustion and anxiety. The angst is likely the reason for the hypoadrenia for which I was diagnosed last June.
Lately, I located a healer who talks about healing the wounds of the past by using self-love practices. I've been following Matt Kahn and have been trying out some of his exercises in order to self-soothe and calm my anxiety. Recently, he wrote a book called "Whatever Arises — Love That." Along with the book were included about eighty audio clips. I've been listening to the audios at night when I can't sleep. One of the most helpful features of his audios are the exercises where he says, "Repeat after me..." His theory is that if we self-soothe using our own voice, instead of listening to someone else's voice, over time we can heal old patterns by re-writing the critical self-talk with which we were raised.
I truly resonate with what he says. Years ago, when I first moved to B.C., I was reading Louise Hay's "Heal Your Life" book of affirmations into my voice recorder, in order to re-write my belief systems. So, when Matt Kahn speaks of listening to my own voice and speak lovingly with my Self, my inner being, my inner child, or whatever term used to describe the part of the self that still suffers from childhood wounds of rejection and feeling unloved and unwanted, it made sense. I heartily embraced his teachings about self-love. It seems to be the next step in healing my lifetime of wounds. After all, how do I feel safe, after growing up as a terrorized child? How do I start to feel safe after all these years of being afraid?
Against all odds, I have been learning to be more attentive, loving, and thoughtful towards my self. I am working towards feeling a state of calmness, which I really need in order to heal the adrenal fatigue.
What do you do to self-soothe and offer love to your inner child?
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